This 3 part blog series is designed to help people make peace with setting personal development goals post-diet culture. This is part 1 of 3. Read Part 2 & Part 3 here.
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Goal Setting Post-Diet Culture: 5 Strategies to Make Goal Setting Exciting Again!
Are you finding yourself hesitant to set personal development goals after breaking free from diet culture? You’re not alone. Many women discover that their relationship with goal setting becomes complicated once they step away from the rigid world of dieting and food rules.
Why You Might Be Experiencing Goal Rebellion
Just like rebellious eating is a natural response to years of food restriction, goal rebellion is an expected and normal part of your journey beyond diet culture. If you’re experiencing any of these signs, you’re likely in a stage of goal rebellion:
– Feeling anxious at the mere thought of setting new goals
– Believing that goals only lead to more suffering
– Struggling to imagine goal-setting without willpower and strict discipline
– Fearing that any goal failure reflects poorly on your worth
– Worrying that goals will pull you back into diet mentality
– Feeling overwhelmed by the perceived complexity of achieving goals
Understanding Goal Rebellion in Your Post-Diet Journey
After years of using goals to “fix” what society labeled as “problems,” it’s perfectly natural to want to reject goal-setting entirely. Many women find themselves saying “f*ck goals” – and that’s okay! This rebellion can actually be a healing part of your journey.
Try this affirmation to bring safety to your current stage:
“It’s totally normal for me to not want to set any goals in my life after years of using goal setting against myself.”
Goal Setting Post-Diet Culture: Moving Toward Goal Neutrality
The sweet spot lies in what we call “goal neutrality” – when the pendulum stops swinging between obsession and rebellion. This is where you can re-engage with goal-setting in a way that truly serves your growth and possibilities.
5 Powerful Strategies to Make Peace with Goal Setting
1. Redefine What Goals Mean to You
Goals aren’t about achieving perfection. Instead, think of them as building blocks for consistent, imperfect action toward something meaningful. It’s about gradually shifting your beliefs and identity, taking small steps that create sustainable change over time.
2. Own Your Sense of Worth
Goal rebellion often stems from believing that achieving goals is the only path to feeling “enough.” Remember: You don’t need to wait until you’ve reached a goal to feel worthy. Your worth exists independently of your achievements.
3. Break Free from Perfectionism
Ask yourself: Would you rather take consistent imperfect action for a year, or give up after six weeks because you couldn’t maintain “perfect” execution? Progress comes from embracing imperfection and keeping going anyway.
4. Focus on Habit Formation
Real life change happens through building sustainable habits, not through the temporary high of setting ambitious goals. Shift your focus from the end result to the daily practices that will get you there.
5. Commit to Self-Compassion
The journey toward any goal isn’t always exciting. It’s about showing up for yourself imperfectly, day after day, knowing that each small step matters. Having your own back through the process is crucial for sustainable change.
Remember: Your journey with goal setting doesn’t have to mirror your past experiences with diet culture. There’s a gentler, more sustainable way forward – and you get to define what that looks like for you.
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Your Next Steps
This post is part 1 of our 3-part series on making peace with goal setting in your post-diet culture journey. Read Part 2 & Part 3 here.