A Guide for Women Triggered by Diet Culture
This guide is for every woman who’s felt triggered by diet culture recently and are thinking about going back on a diet:
- The influencer flaunting their “healthy lifestyle transformation.”
- The gym windows showcasing “before and after” photos.
- Aunt Janice bragging about her miracle weight loss program.
If you’ve caught yourself thinking about going back on a diet, know this: your thoughts are valid and expected. You’re not broken or weak. You’re simply living in a world that constantly reinforces the idea that your body needs to change.
Let’s unpack these triggers together, so you can move past the noise of diet culture and reclaim your power.
Thinking about Going Back on a Diet: How To Coach Yourself When Triggered by Diet Culture
When you think about dieting, it’s often your brain’s way of seeking safety in a fatphobic society. The messaging around us equates thinness with happiness, success, and health. It’s no wonder you feel compelled to change your body—it’s what you’ve been taught for years.
But here’s the truth: a thought is not a fact.
That fleeting desire to lose weight? It’s not an absolute truth about your worth or what you need to feel fulfilled. It just reflects the conditioning you’ve absorbed from diet culture.
Step 1: Normalize Your Thoughts
The first step in navigating these feelings is normalization. Remind yourself that it’s normal to think about dieting in a world obsessed with thinness.
Try saying this to yourself:
“It makes total sense that I feel this way. I live in a fatphobic, diet-culture-obsessed society.”
Place your hand on your heart, breathe deeply, and repeat it with compassion. This simple act can help shift your mindset from self-blame to understanding.
Step 2: Challenge Your Beliefs
After normalizing your thoughts, ask yourself:
- What do I want to believe about my body, health, and happiness?
- Do I want to keep believing that weight loss is the key to my happiness or health?
Diet culture thrives on three major lies:
- Smaller bodies are better and more valuable.
- Health is only accessible at a smaller weight.
- Your worth depends on how hard you work to shrink your body.
Now, let’s rewrite the narrative. Consider these alternative beliefs:
- My body is a tool to experience life, not a sign of my worth as a woman.
- Health-promoting behaviors are accessible at any weight.
- My happiness comes from the way I think about myself, not my pant size.
Step 3: Choose Empowering Thoughts
Once you’ve identified the beliefs you want to hold, it’s time to train your brain to think them more often. This is where true transformation begins, but it requires practice and patience.
Here’s how:
- Write down your new beliefs.
- Place them somewhere visible—on your mirror, fridge, or phone wallpaper.
- Repeat them daily, even if they don’t feel true right away.
Over time, these new thoughts will become second nature, replacing the diet culture beliefs that once dominated your mind.
Why Going Back on a Diet Feels So Tempting
Dieting provides a sense of control, especially when life feels overwhelming. It offers a clear path with rules and promises of a better future. But here’s what diet culture doesn’t tell you:
- Diets fail 91-95% of the time.
- They create a cycle of weight loss and regain, leaving you feeling like the problem when the real issue is the unsustainable methods.
- Dieting harms your relationship with food, your body, and your mental health.
You’re not the problem. Diet culture is.
Step 4: Reflect on What You’re Truly Seeking
When you think about dieting, it’s rarely just about the weight. Ask yourself:
- What am I hoping to feel by losing weight?
- Do I want confidence, happiness, ease, or acceptance?
The good news? You don’t need to shrink your body to feel those things. Confidence and happiness are already within reach—you just need to shift the focus from external validation to internal growth.
Step 5: Break Free with Self-Compassion
Breaking free from diet culture is not a one-time decision. It’s an ongoing process of self-coaching and self-compassion. Here’s how to stay grounded when triggers arise:
- Acknowledge Your Triggers: Recognize when a comment, ad, or thought activates your desire to diet.
- Pause and Breathe: Create space between the trigger and your response.
- Respond with Kindness: Remind yourself that it’s normal to feel this way, but you have the power to choose a different path.
Thinking about Going Back on a Diet: What to Do Instead
Instead of focusing on weight loss, channel your energy into behaviors that genuinely improve your well-being.
1. Focus on Nourishment: Eat foods that satisfy and energize you, without labeling them as “good” or “bad.”
2. Move for Joy: Find activities that make you feel alive and connected to your body, rather than punishing workouts.
3. Prioritize Rest and Stress Management: Sleep and stress reduction are critical for physical and emotional health.
4. Celebrate Your Body: Practice gratitude for what your body allows you to do, rather than how it looks.
Remember: You Are Enough
When you feel the urge to go back on a diet, remind yourself:
- You don’t need to fix yourself.
- Your body is not a problem.
- Diet culture doesn’t get to define your worth.
Choosing to reject dieting is a radical act of self-love in a world that profits from your self-doubt. By reclaiming your thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors, you can liberate yourself from the endless cycle of dieting and finally live fully.
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